A Beginners Guide To Simplifying Your Mom Life

How do you feel your mom life is going?

Seriously.

I’m not talking about your kids. I’m talking about YOU in your role as a mom. How are you?

Do you feel happy? Or do you feel overwhelmed, tired, depressed, anxious or angry? Like you’re just can’t wait for bedtime when you finally get some peace and quiet and can zone out with Netflix?

Now, let me ask you this. In an ideal world what do you want your mom life to feel like?

If you’re not where you want to be, then this post is for you. But first, let me tell you that I can totally relate because I’ve been there. Being unhappy with where you’re at can be a hard reality to face. But the good news is that it doesn’t have to be the place you stay in. It’s true! So let me give you a bit warm hug and tell you right now that everything is going to be okay. Let me share with you some steps to get you to where your mom life feels like a much happier place.

First off, the answer is not in doing more stuff.

I’m not going to give you a list of more things to do in order to get to your perfect mom life. In fact, I believe that’s why we got into this mess in the first place. Instead I’m going to offer you a different solution. I’m going to share with you a big secret I discovered in my own mom life happiness: It’s simplifying your life by doing less.

Have you ever noticed that all the moms on instagram, pinterest and ever diaper commercial ever created are telling us that mom life is supposed to be wrapped up in the romance of a perfect motherhood with loads of laughing, impeccably clean and trendy homes and the perfect hair?

The truth of motherhood can be far from this picture.

Do these images make you feel like you’re failing as a mom? It’s easy to feel that way when you’re surrounded by messages telling you that you should be something else.

As moms we spend 99% of our lives giving our time to others through a neverending list of to-dos. Does it feel like your house will never actually be clean? Are you constantly picking up toys? As soon as you clean the kitchen is it dirty again 5 minutes later?

Basically, you have a gazillion things to do every day to keep your family running smoothly.

All of this stuff piled on top of one another is going to make any mama feel burnt out, tired, depressed, and even resentful. When you’re tank is empty and there’s no more energy left for you to give, you start running on autopilot every single day.

But I don’t want you to spend these precious years on autopilot. Your kids are young for such a short period of time. These years are special. I want you to soak up every glorious moment of it. I want you to stop doing all the housework and start living your life!

I have so been there! Just a couple years ago I was drowning in my own life. Things were dark and I felt completely lost in how to get out of it.

From one mama to another that’s been there. I want you to find that spark in your life again. You don’t have to stay in this autopilot mom life. I want to help you get out of the darkness.

I’m here to show you how to feel happier and more at ease in your role as a mother. One where you can feel like you can breathe. You can spend more free time creating memories with your family versus cleaning and housework. I want to show you how you can cut your task down by half and make room for more time to LIVE.


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Ok, let’s get really honest with each other.

Whether we like it or not, you are the mom and you set the tone for your family.

You are the rock.

If your kids or husband were to describe your overall presence in the house, would they describe you as stressed, really short with them, angry, or tired? Are they walking on eggshells around you ?

I’m not asking this because I want you to feel guilty or shame from this. I am asking because I want to show you how to get out of the cycle and into a place where you feel happier. I’m certainly not perfect. But I know what it’s like to be really unhappy and even resentful in my own mom life and wishing I could take it all back.

Let’s talk about common stereotypes of motherhood…

For most of us, ever since we were little we were told a similar message through our families and the media. It’s one of a mom being at home, taking care of the family, and giving everything to help them. Moms do all the chores. Moms cook beautiful elaborate meals in the kitchen. Moms volunteer at the kids’ schools. And moms do it all with a smile on their face because they just love it so much.

Most of this messaging started in the 1950’s and it still sticks with us to this day.

But this message is completely unrealistic and outdated for our modern world. Most families now need to live on two incomes in order to support ourselves. This wasn’t the case back then. We also have way more expectations for our children nowadays. Kids are in way more extra curricular activities. And what about you? You probably want to do some things too, right? Maybe take a pottery class? Or go for a glass of wine with friends. In the 1950’s a woman’s job was to keep the home clean and care for the children. That was basically it.

Now, we have so much more on our plate. No human being can possibly take all of this on and still feel like everything is going great. It’s just not possible.

So if you feel like you’re currently failing in any area of your life. It’s not your fault. The system has set it up for us to have impossible expectations on ourselves. It’s inevitable that we will “fail” when presented with this impossible “perfect mom” role we try to fall in to.

Let me share with you how I’ve broken the mould and created a more balanced system for modern motherhood. This system involves simplifying your life. It means getting rid of the excess stuff in your home you just don’t need. It means decluttering your to do list and paperwork. And it means creating a simple rhythm for your days that keeps things on track.

Guys, I watch my daughter full-time, manage two businesses (this blog and my husbands artist business) and run our household. I have A LOT of things on my plate so I’m not coming from a place where I’m making this all up. I don’t have a nanny, or a housekeeper. If I can do this, so can you.

So what does this look like? In order to simplify your mom life, you need to get rid of a few big blocks that are holding your back.

Here are the three main areas of modern motherhood that we need to focus on simplifying in order to get to our happy place…

1.SIMPLIFYING YOUR MEALS

Your kitchen is like the heart of your home. It’s the place to provide nourishment for your family. But many of us look at it as a place of stress because we’re overwhelmed by figuring out what to make for dinner every night. The dishes feel like they’re never ending. The fridge feels like it constantly needs to be restocked. And we feel like we’re just playing catch up all the time trying to keep it all running.

Start simplifying in here by first by getting rid of all the unnecessary dishes! Most of us have way too many plates, cups, mugs, plastic containers and more. The result - MORE DIRTY DISHES than we actually need to clean! You’ll have bigger piles on the counter and more clutter in the cupboards. But if you pair it down to just the basics, you’ll feel so much better. Trust me.

Now take a look at your food. Go through all the condiments in the fridge and cupboard. Check for expiry dates and purge anything that’s too old. Are there salad dressings you haven’t touched in months? Get rid of those too. Now go through the freezer and do the same thing. If there are things that are completely freezer burnt and you don’t know what they are, purge them.

When it comes to making your meals, I believe that the simpler the better. That means simple, healthy ingredients that provide nourishment for your family. But are also affordable because majority of us are not able to buy everything organic and are on a tight budget. I believe in buying and eating 90% real food (ingredients that come from the earth) with 10% snacks and treats that may be more processed (chips and snacks). Some main staples I keep in our house are rice and quinoa that I usually buy in the bulk section to save money. Canned beans, chicken thighs, ground beef or turkey. I start with these things and add in vegetables depending on the season. If it’s the winter and things are a little more expensive, I prefer to buy more frozen vegetables. In the summer, I like to buy fresh vegetables from the farmers market.

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2. SIMPLIFYING YOUR HOME

I want you to take a look around your house and honestly answer this question: Do you have too much stuff? I was brought up in a house where we had lots of things. I had lots of toys growing up. Our house was full of decorations and knick knacks. At one point, my mom owned an antique store and our basement was completely full to the brim with objects that she was collecting to sell at the store. So the habit of collecting things comes easily to me.

It wasn’t until I had my daughter that I realized that this was not going to work anymore. I realized that having so much stuff was starting to stress me out and make me feel really overwhelmed. I couldn’t believe all of the things she “needed” as a little tiny baby! A stroller, a bumble chair, a play pen, toys, bath toys, too many clothes, and on and on. I knew that I couldn’t keep this up.

Bit by bit I started purging the house. It was like layers of a onion. I peeled back one layer of declutter at a time. I got used to frequent trips to the thrift store and I sold bigger things online.

The less stuff we had, the better I started to feel.

Decluttering your home is the key to modern motherhood success. More clutter equals more stress and more time doing housework. It’s as simple as that.

3. SIMPLIFYING YOUR TO-DO LIST

Your to do list has things on it that you don’t actually need to do, I can guarantee it. So the first step is to figure out your priorities. They’ll go in this order:

  • Things you have to do no matter what.

  • Things that are important to you that you want to do.

  • Things that you’re doing but don’t actually need to do. And if you cut them out, you wouldn’t see much of a difference (ex. scrolling through instagram, spending more time cooking and cleaning than necessary).

Next, you need to organize the paperwork. If you have piles of paper in your house of things that haven’t been taken care of, start there. Even 10 minutes a day working on it will make a huge impact over time.

One thing that has saved my family is creating a command center. This holds our weekly schedule including my daughters activities (like soccer and swim class), appointments, to-do list, grocery list, and meal plan for the week. It’s where both myself and my husband can keep our lives organized. It’s also where I can dump paperwork (bills, receipts etc) from the week that I’ll take care of later.

The last part of simplifying your to-do list is the virtual part. That means everything you do on your computer. The easiest thing to do first is to organize and delete any unnecessary files and images. Next, go through your emails and delete the ones you don’t need. Unsubscribe to any companies you no longer want to hear from. And last but not least, unfollow any social media accounts that cause you stress or to compare yourself in a negative way.


SIMPLIFY YOUR MOM LIFE - STARTER KIT

Download my new Simplify Your Mom Life Starter Kit. This is my beginners guide to simplifying where you’ll learn how to get started, 3 easy steps to simplify your meals, and 10 minute projects to start tackling the overwhelm around the house.


 
 
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